States of Peace

I have a subscription to the OED. A lot of these are based on that source.

These are words found on the NVC feelings wheel under “Peaceful”.

Peaceful: Not employing force or violence. An alternative solution to a problem where force, violence and war is the more obvious means; friendly; pleasant; favorable; benign; amicable, affable.

Calm: Free from agitation or disturbance: still, quiet, tranquility.

Content: Full inward satisfaction – not disturbed for desire by anything more.

Satisfied: met, answered, fully supplied.

Comfortable: A state of tranquil enjoyment and content; free from pain and trouble – ease

Relaxed: free from tension, anxiety, stress.

Serene: Calm mixed with cheer and radiance.

Calm: Free from agitation or disturbance; quiet, still, tranquil, serene; without wind, not stormy.

Tranquil: Free from agitation or disturbance; calm, serene, placid, quiet, peaceful.

Quiet: absence of commotion or bustle, free from discord or strife, free from noise or uproar.

Centered: Serene + Inner Peace and/or Harmon – emotionally well balanced

Harmony: Internal parts and stories are united in opinion, unanimous and free from discord or dissent

Congruous: A feeling something is reasonable, becoming, fitting, suitable or appropriate to who you are.

Balanced: Emotional Equilibrium – Opposing parts are in equality.

Affect Neurobiology

The short list of affects, or large emotions, based on brain states:

SEEKING/Expectancy

RAGE/Anger

FEAR/Anxiety

LUST/Sexuality

CARE/Nurturance

PANIC/Separation

PLAY/Joy

Courtesy of Jaak Panksepp

Things That Aren't Empathy

From the book Non-Violent Communication

My friend Holley Humphrey identified some common behaviors that
prevent us from being sufficiently present to connect empathically
with others. The following are examples:

Advising: “I think you should … ” “How come you didn’t … ?”

One-upping: “That’s nothing; wait’ll you hear what happened to me.”

Educating: “This could turn into a very positive experience for you if you just … ”

Consoling: “It wasn’t your fault; you did the best you could.”

Story-telling: “That reminds me of the time … ”

Shutting down: “Cheer up. Don’t feel so bad.”

Sympathizing: “Oh, you poor thing … ”

Interrogating: “When did this begin?”

Explaining: “I would have called but … ”

Correcting: “That’s not how it happened.”